“I’m a huge believer in clarity.” – Ben Horowitz
“The heart shows you the direction in life. The mind exists only to execute your emotion.” – Arjun Rampal
According to the Google, clarity is defined as having a quality of transparency, or purity, coherence, intelligibility, or certainty.
Is that a definition that you’d use to describe your life? Up until a few years ago, my response would’ve been “nope.”
As a child my answer might have been different, but then again most children don’t worry about that sort of thing. As the brilliant English novelist and philosopher Aldous Huxley stated, “Children are remarkable for their intelligence and ardor, for their curiosity, their intolerance of shams, the clarity and ruthlessness of their vision.”
As a young adult, the future seemed murkier. Part of the reason I studied so broadly and spent so much time developing myself is that I wasn’t sure what I wanted. I worked hard to excel and got great at learning quickly and thoroughly. But, in many ways, that skill became a crutch to avoid bigger questions.
My lack of clarity presented many challenges. I feared commitment. I felt like I was always missing out on something (FOMO!) I delayed making important decisions – just ask Kristen how long it took for me to propose! It even contributed to a sort of existential crisis. I wasn’t satisfied with my “success,” even though I’d checked all the boxes that were was supposed to bring me happiness. Worse, I felt guilty about it.
Once I appreciated what the lack of clarity was costing me, I poured my energy into finding a solution. As I did so, other people began to notice and ask for support in doing the same.
As it turns out, there’s a lot of us seeking clarity.
Do any of the following sound familiar?
- I don’t know what I want.
- I’m not sure what do to next.
- I feel like I’m spinning my wheels.
- I don’t know what’s missing.
How about these:
- What do I do in this situation?
- How do I make the right choice when facing a difficult decision?
- What’s the best way to go about navigating multiple possibilities?
We all experience thoughts and moments like those, especially when we’re tackling big challenges or striving to grow into higher versions of ourselves. It comes with the territory.
Obviously, it helps to have a strong foundation in place: practicing mental mastery through meditation, learning to discover and record our thoughts in a journal, keeping our physical bodies operating well with regular movement, etc.
Those fundamentals are even more important in the midst of chaos. They help us to create space and allow our minds to settle – like cloudy water becoming clear when the wind dies and the waves slow.
On top of that strong foundation, we can also benefit from structured approaches.
The Clarity Kit
Whenever I’m facing a difficult choice, I typically turn to one (or several) of a set of tools. They’re powerful exercises for developing internal clarity, navigating complex decisions, and cultivating personal capabilities. They’ve helped me learn to trust myself and develop the courage to leap into exciting opportunities and adventures.
They’re also the resources I regularly recommend to people seeking something similar. Since it’s become such a common request, I thought it would be fun to create* a toolkit to point people towards. (Note: Common request = great opportunity to serve!)
So, here it is.
There are five written exercises, a short physical process, and a guided audio. It’s a collection I’ve curated from the world’s top psychologists, visionaries, therapists, performance experts, educators, coaches, and more. People like Steve Jobs, Tim Ferriss, Henry Ford, Tony Robbins, Joseph Campbell, Tal Ben-Shahar, Bryan Franklin, Louise Hay, Jacob Sokol, and Ralph Waldo Emerson.
*As an aside, inspired by the fun I’ve been having with the +1s, I also threw some illustrations into The Clarity Kit. It’s probably something I’ll be doing more of in the future.
(Header image credit: Christian Nielsen)